"talking about sexism or racism on Tumblr doesn’t solve anything"
really? because I am absolutely certain that I am a better, less bigoted person than I was a few years ago and that is most certainly due to the people I met and things I read on Tumblr
perhaps it doesn’t do…
here it is guys. here is the whole thing, and here’s my little addition:
this fucking organization does more spreading hate than stopping it tbh
Yes, let’s preach acceptance by telling people their identity is invalid and just a trend…
By their logic straight is not an identity either, because straight people don’t suffer as a result of their sexual identity. Also, such a lack of respect from an organisation with their aims is incredibly unprofessional.
They’re pretty much the same as PETA, an ‘animal rights’ group that kills animals.
Ways asexuals are oppressed under the law:
- The law has an assumption towards sexual relationships as the default romantic relationship. In the UK lack of consummation of marriage remains a grounds for annulment. Because asexuals can still have romantic feelings and may still want to marry, the laws that allow annulment because of lack of consummation are fundamentally discriminatory to asexuals. Two people could agree to marry and share their lives together. The assumption that a marriage is not valid without sexual intercourse is clearly an issue.
- While most US States have eliminated the consummation rule (unless there are issues of fraud involved) the US Department of immigration considers an unconsummated marriage to be fraudulent for purposes of obtaining a visa. While the law was put in place in an effort to prevent people from marrying only for citizenship, it also sweeps in asexuals who may have strong romantic feelings for someone who they wish to marry.
- Asexuals face the same workplace and school discrimination as any non-hetero normative group does. If people think that not having sex or an interest in sex will prevent you from getting teased, just look at an episode of The Big Bang Theory where Sheldon’s lack of interest in sex makes him a topic of mockery. Asexuals face many of the same threats that homosexuals do, in terms of being told that they just need to find the right person to make them “normal”.
- Asexuals who are also aromantic will likely face the many biases that come face single people. Singleism is a topic that has been very much talked about since single people are often forced to work holidays and undesirable hours because society feels that the time of people in romantic relationships is more valuable. While singleism is an issue that impacts all people who are not in a relationship, it certainly will have a longer lasting impact on aromantics. The relationships that ace’s may place importance on (time with their parents, friends, nieces, nephews, siblings) have a low importance in society leading to continuing discrimination when they try to take time off to spend with those loved ones.
- Many state domestic violence laws would exclude an asexual who is being abused by their romantic partner. Oregon’s Restraining Order Law shows an example of this (http://www.osbar.org/public/legalinfo/1140_restrainingorders.htm)
Relationship. The person who abused you is: 1) your husband, wife, or domestic partner; or 2) your former husband, wife, or domestic partner; or 3) an adult with whom you are living (or did live) in a sexual relationship; or 4) an adult with whom you have been in a sexual relationship in the last two years; or 5) an adult related to you by blood, marriage, or adoption; or 6) the parent of your child.
So, if you are an asexual in Oregon and being abused by your romantic partner then you are SOL if you aren’t living with them. This is just another example of the legal presumption of sexuality in all romantic and marital relationships.
So there, a bunch of great examples of how the law discriminates against asexuals. And that doesn’t include more of the real problems that they face, which is just the fact that people either believe that they don’t exist or that they must be suffering from some mental illness.
Pansexuals face many of the same legal challenges that bisexuals face, along with the extra stress of being told that they don’t exist. There may be some benefit to differentiating between pan and bisexuals in that pansexuals represent a greater threat to the gender binary and thus face more pushback from society. Legal Scholar Kenji Yoshino discusses this issue in his article The epistemic contract of bisexual erasure (http://www.kenjiyoshino.com/articles/epistemiccontract.pdf). While he doesn’t use the term Pansexual (mostly because it was written in 2000) he does draw a distinction between the subgroup of bisexuals who are gender blind. If he were writing it today I believe that this subgroup would probably be consider themselves pansexual.
As usual, Calla wins all the awards. This is brilliant.
I promised I wasn’t going to reblog this again but this is some brilliant commentary on my postDon’t forget corrective rape!